Making Magic

Words we chooses define us.
Hopfully... we pick the right one in the right order.
A compiled list of tricks you can do with word from "Magic Words" by Johan berger.

I do therefore I am

I like to write text on paper with a pen.
I am a writer.

You can use this to persuade other or even yourself.

will you help ->  will you be a helper

#1 frame action into the desired identity

dont write it down just yet but i cant stop

When expressing your disagrement use a "soft" or "hard" gear to make you heard.
I cant make it tonight vs I dont have time tonight

  Soft : Cant ->  compastion and understanding
  Hard : Dont -> empowering -> strong -> wont bodge

#2 Use the right negative tone

Turn your S into C

What does should vs could as in common ? some level of possibilties

   should :  task is doable but,
   could  :  task is doable now

Express yourself with could when you want to be more creative and express some level of decison making. Should when uncertaininty is high.

#3 Could = good should = bad

talk to the to yourself at the third person

are you experiencing a tought situation expressing yourself a the third person will distant you from the situation reducing your stress and anxiety

You're the boss

The "you" word has a lot of psychological power, and you have been manipulated by Big Tech. ex "For you", "here for 4 example to save you money". Use it wisely at your advantage to promote ownership or to shift responsibility .

Conclusion

Weigh your words and always be aware of your tone. You're the boss.